Staying Healthy Without Stressing

August 30th, 2009

Exercise
ReallyThe first thing that comes to peoples mind when the hear the word exercise is, oh god that’s just too much work for me, but it does not have to always be associated with hard work. Lets look at it this way you are trying to relieve stress, so why do something that will or might stress you out even more, so what you need is something that doesn’t bring further stress. Lets try listing a few activities that can actually help you relieve a little stress without having to complain about aching mascles afterwards since all you need is to get the blood pumping to clear you head and have time to think about matters other than your daily problems.

A Weekend Routine
weekendThose with a very busy life style weekends are a good time to meet up with friends and family organise a game could be soccer, tennis, badminton or soccer or better still just a walk round a new site in your area or perhaps a walk to a friends house and a walk back. That’s one simple exercise out of the way and it wont even feel like you where working out.

Sleep
The importance of sleep can never be over stated, the body needs to recuperate and the mind needs to rest from everything that goes on through the day be it stressful or just normal daily routine. The ideal amount of sleep should be 8 hours per night but of course others have far much busier lives so you can try to squeeze in the resting hours over weekends or whenever you get the chance.

Express yourself
Ever thought it is a little cheezy to keep a diary? i will be the first to admit yes i think it is but when you are going through very stressing times taking note can be a good way to relieve or at least reduce the stress at those particular moment. It gives you the opportunity to read later, which can be a little fun, you reflect on it and it helps make life easier and helps with problem solving when or should you find yourself in a stressing position again.

Take a walk
As mentioned on weekend routine unlike jogging, walking gives you an opportunity to take in your surroundings nature can have a healing effect on anyone and the walk should get the blood flowing. The walk gives you time to reflect and unwind with no destruction’s this is especially important if your work involves sitting for long periods of time or if you spend most of you time indoors. There are certain walks you can take with a loved one, a friend, a dog or by yourself which ever helps you feel relaxed, remember the idea is to clear you mind so sometimes your partner or wife might not be the best choice less you get in an argument on the way.

Get creative
The first thing you need to realise is that whatever creativeness you might have does not have to be a perfect work of art. I think we are all persons of many talents but are afraid to tap into it because we fear we are not good enough. Though it might not turn out to be a very constructive piece of work under the circumstance you might just find it to be.

A healthy body is a healthy mind
The wrong thing to do when you feel stressed out is to go drinking and or smoking in excess which with no doubt puts pressure on the body’s organs. So what you are basically doing is adding more stress on the body which is what we are trying to avoid in the first place.Having a balanced diet and making sure your body gets enough fluids is important not only for a healthy body but a healthy mind. Don’t just think healthy body think healthy mind as well, if you don’t that’s when you hear of people eating well but it just doesn’t seem to work for them.

Peace and quiet
quietWith family and kids this can be a very rare commodity but by all means do try to find the time when stress level are high the last thing you want is taking it out on someone else, something you might live to regret or even add on to your stress. Noise can add to stress especially that it can disturb the level of concentration so always try to find some quiet time for yourself. The gym might just not be the right place for you with poor concentration.

There you have it done without getting physical in the gym but of course we are all different individuals, what works for one might not for another when things get out of hand always consult the professionals such as your GP.

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A Destruction of Your Career

August 28th, 2009

Whatever Happened to Your Career?

Which way to Go

Which way to Go

A career takes us into lifes many journeys full of ups and downs but we are more likely to accept the ups than the downs. Any turn in direction has both internal and external factors that can result in a chain reaction after all we are only human and are particularly good at orchestrating our own downfall.

Now here is the great thing about having a career, you have direction in life you know what you want and you are comforted by the fact that you are sure you know where you are coming from and where you are going.

When a career takes a nose dive there is always one thing that comes to mind especially for those in high flying jobs, they will say they are ruined god forbid some even take extreme measures and not only take there lives but even of those they love.

Dont Stress

Dont Stress

There is no need to keep kicking yourself in the back side when things go bad in your life, in my personal experience it should be a temporal set back but perhaps a reminder that your life needs a new direction. What doenst kill you only makes you stronger, if it doesnt kill you why should you do it yourself?

When things dont go well in our lives there is a lot of anger within us that builds up, but is only natural at difficult times, it is only how you deal with it that will define your new direction. At difficult or turning points in our lives problems will not go away with a wave of a magic wand, a once very optimistic person becomes a pessimist.

Dependency can make you a perpetual berger, if you resort to drinking you will do all it takes just to have a drink even spending the little you have which if in a proper mind set would have probably yield more.And so a chain reaction begins which only can lead to yourself destruction.

When we are in a tight spot we also become desperate and desperate people do desperate things which is like adding fuel to a fire trying to put it off. Basically do not rush to try and correct the situation it can only get worse.

career_2Frustration is also a big problem because it will play on you mind all the time to fail once when you where doing so well makes you feel chances are you might fail again. You develop a certain negative attitude towards yourself and end up with low esteem.

When i went to see my consultant about feeling down and out i think he gave me the best advice, which might not be for every one, that i should not rush into getting antidepresant or sleeping pills or anything medical to deal with my situation. He advised for me to try and deal with the situation the normal way, and as one friend put it in chat room he wants me to live life.

Here is my reasoning basically the problems wont simply go away by medicating it, i will wake up tomorrow it will still be there and besides anti depressants take long to kick in. By the time it does kick in a lot of things could have changed. Dont get me wrong my assertion is that these are temporal set backs that are external or/and internal to an already existing type of life ie someone who already has a medical condition.

Every individual has a strong will to live and that will should be used to deal with lifes ups and downs. Our downs in life should not be taken as a death sentence but rather life asking us to review how we live our lives, how we interact with ourselves and everything around us.

I for one do not like to talk about my situation or condition day in and day out like i am feeling sorry for myself, it only reinforces the anger and frustration in you. If i am to talk about it i would rather look at it from a positive perspective that is how you cope and move on and not be stuck in misery.

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Our Salvation

August 19th, 2009

powerp_1My Fight With God
A friend of my wife is always negative about the existence of God because her partner is a non believer. The questions he normally asked her when she strongly, at the time, believed in God where many but one stands out ‘if he loves us so much and is of pure heart why is he a jealous God’?
Can one really loose there salvation for whatever reason? There are many people that will make one feel, I have done so much wrong, I have lost my guilt conscience and they keep doing what they do because they really can’t see any point in being any different. So can we really lose our salvation in God?
The answer I think is no you can’t, why, because the same God you pray to, you call father and never in your life time will that change. He is a jealous God of pure heart the same you would be towards your own children who you have given the freedom to lead their own kind of life, you look out for them because you are there earthly father.
Regardless of what your relationship might be with your father he will never seize to be your father. You will not give up that right to call him father so what makes you think you can lose your salvation in God unless you forget that he is known by many names. He is our father, our God and our creator with him you have someone to run to no matter what the situation and that is true even in our daily lives.

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Truth or Lies

August 17th, 2009

truth_1The Difference between the Truth and a Lie

To be honest there isn’t any difference because its all in your head you only believe what you want to believe, hear what you want to hear, see only what you want to see, sound familiar, well it doesn’t only apply to women though they are the master of the art.

So basically there is a society that dictates what is sane and insane, but not everyone conforms in the same manner hence the telling them apart. A person who we deem to be “insane” accepts a different set of truths than the multitude does.  Do you think that that actually makes them any less right in the manner that they conduct themselves?

Most people believe everything that society tells them is the norm and call themselves sane but are they really? Because there is the next person who will say there way is the right way.

Here is how a lie becomes a truth, one day you tell yourself a small convincing story about the world around you, the next day you will have to justify it. And so a chain or web of lies or truths is formed all it will take is some other person to tell another story in their favor to convince you otherwise, so at the end of the day it depends on who has the strong will to hang on to their story.

But society has programmed and conditioned us in a certain way that we should accept what popular belief dictates to us. At the end of the day we really do not have free choice because we have to abide by the rules that govern us otherwise we are said to be telling lies.

Ok so lets look at another example, the world economy doing the rounds up and down day in day out. I tell myself this is normal at times like this because we are going through change. But of course not everyone will think that they would rather believe some conspiracy going on.

Child Poverty

Child Poverty

Maybe the question then should be what is reality? is it what we tell our selves is true? I personally think it is because the only reality to me will be what I know to be true. If my reality is leaving in poverty then the only truth that I know is what poverty has offered me and that should not make me different or a liar. If I tell you that life is all about poverty am I lying? You would probably say yes but that would be the only truth I know.

So maybe the problem is that there is more people pretending or fitting in than there is those that are faced with the reality of life. The only truth they know is to adjust to situations even if it means them changing there way of life. So who is telling the truth and who is lying? Because for each one of them in their own sense they are both right. The solution would be to stop trying to convince the other person that there way is the wrong way.

So here we have a society where some people are HIV+ in there world (my world) nothing has changed but if I tell that to people that are negative and some even positive will say I am lying. The truth is I am still the same me with a virus that can’t be cured. I have to adjust in respect of taking more care, being considerate so I don’t spread the disease other than that I am still old me.

Anybody with a terminal illness feel like they are displaced in society but I wonder what this really has to do with acceptable norms of society. Is society meant to be healthy for all its time on earth? Are our body not meant to exhaust at some point in what way it doesn’t matter I mean there people who kick the bucket far much early than those with an illness.

So if I take you for the person that you are why not take me for the person that I am with my change in circumstances. Listen to me and not what you are told by others about what someone with a terminal illness is going through. If you want to know the truth, talk to me and not believe your own truth to judge me.

We all leave a lie it just depends how many people along the way you have managed to convince that yours is the true lie. I can seat next to you in a pub and tell you my life story today omitting out the fact that I am HIV+ and you will believe it is the truth and invite me into your house. The simple truth is I have told myself for the day that is the truth and I have to make you believe me.

Reality is whatever set of lies you choose to believe so you tell me how many lies have you told today????

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My Blood Test

August 12th, 2009

I found this to be the easiest part especially if you are sure there is nothing wrong with you right? You look good you feel good so what can possibly be wrong with you? Oh yeah you keep healthy you exercise and you have only had sex with a few girls/boys…..know there is the reason for a check though you are still not bothered they are good girls or boys right…

From what I know it makes no difference between someone who has been sleeping around and someone who hasn’t when it comes to getting the results. Reality check dawns on you when you are told the results and you think…. this can’t be happening, these are not my results, even when you know you have been naughty.

Now let’s put a different dimension to this for someone who is pregnant in this case I will say my wife. It’s the greatest joy to have a child but not in these circumstances the joys turns to fear, the fear of what might happen to your unborn child, the fear of keeping the child, the fear of the unknown. But to be honest I cannot speak on behalf women who are pregnant or trying to get pregnant while being diagnosed with HIV. On this particular part I would like to hear from women themselves in their own words.

As on the man side speaking for myself I had no doubt my results would be negative, I donated blood on a number of occasions which I believe they run tests on, so there was no need for me to worry.

So when I first got my blood test results I dint panic I just thought the clinic had made a mistake, they mix up my details with someone else. So I went again and again about 4 times I had my test down month after month think they will finally get it right because I can’t be HIV positive, I mean I have a career, a future to look forward to, I had a reputation for taking charge and being responsible so why on earth could this be happening to me?

There is one big difference between some people with terminal illnesses such well, HIV, cancer or just some other long term problems for instance if I were to fill in a form and there is a question on whether I am HIV+, I will spend minutes contemplating whether to say yes or no. Do you know why it’s like that? Because you are worried once they know they will treat you differently. I for one am not bothered I indicate that I am HIV+ though not proud, if it’s a Doctor they appreciate your honesty because they will know how to treat you, the problem I think is usually the people that handle you before and after you see the specialist it doesn’t necessarily have to be a Doctor.

Do you ever ask yourself why such a fuss over your HIV status when a lot more people  die way before you from other more complicated illnesses. Why should it be that we should be singled out? Could it be because we single ourselves out in the manner that we behave? I think sometimes it’s also because people strongly believe it can’t happen to them and it shouldn’t happen to them.

The one thing that is so hard leaving with a blood test result in the very few days of getting them is that you feel everyone already knows. You don’t know who to tell and what to tell them like in my previous post Stigma or AIDS what will Kill  where a woman told her family and she ended up being abandoned. These are the kind of thought that go through people’s minds others leave own to be even stronger individuals and speak for other in the same situation, while others are not that strong and that weakness kills them.

For me it has happened and it will come to pass I now go for tests every 3 months sometimes I don’t  not because I want to but because I forget I have a disease that require frequent check up. On top of that I am not on medication yet I think it’s because I am blessed with a blood type that is persistently fighting the virus from taking hold completely.

The reality of being HIV+ are not easy for everyone to take and we all accept our condition in a different manner, others decide to move on as before other adjust and stay positive while there is a lot more people out there who will not accept and are destroyed by it.

So I have come to leave with my HIV+ status but sadly not everyone around me feels my positive energy I don’t know if it’s the thought for them that I could drop dead any minute or just that they feel the shame of having someone they know carry an embarrassing disease around.

I like to argue that it is not by choice that these things happen but they do happen for a reason if you can’t change it learn to leave with it.

So when are you going to get tested ???

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AIDS an African Disease

August 9th, 2009

AIDS is not an African disease it more pronounced in developing countrys because of the suffering mainly caused by poverty nutritional needs are never fully met which makes even the drugs not work as they are supporsed to

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General

August 9th, 2009

RESPECT EARNED AND DESERVED

09/08/09

You are taking a walk with your partner or anybody with a child in the push chair, passing by a park you spot young boys and girls on their bikes then you put your arm across your partner to avoid being run down. So the boys and girls pass without incident so whats the big deal right?

What would you expect in this situation a thank you dear i did not see that coming or something along the lines kids these days don’t just care. In this particular situation i have to say its embarrassing when an argument erupts on respect for elders and how because you gave way people will always take advantage of you mind you this would be in full view of the general public.

First lets say we leave in an ever changing world which offers no guarantee cultural values will always be upheld. Everything that surrounds us today moves with the times for example ipods, iphones, computers and technology in general. Our demand for up to the minute information exposes us to a lot of outside influences  so perhaps the relationship between older people and the young should from time to time also be reviewed to reflect changing times, just a thought…

It should be a matter of fact that elderly people should naturally be respected for the wisdom that they have and many more factors that should not even be questioned ie they know more about life than you do though you got a better job than them. But of course in reality this is not the case because of the many aspects that can command respect other than age and wisdom there is for instance fear.

Success comes in many forms by whatever means that you have managed to get it, it will command you some level of respect. The questions is whether it is of wisdom with age and exposure or just that people are afraid of you, which in my opinion is not respect at all.

 We are in the information culture where you can gather a lot of information to put you in a well informed position to make appropriate decisions; the only problem is that with so much information out there through the www people seem to ignore even the simplest of cultural structure.

We all want to be heard from what we know rather than trying to understand each other’s points of view. To compromise on divergent cultural views does not mean destruction in your own cultural values. If you accept other individual’s views on life on their terms it should just be natural that they accept yours to leave in harmony at the end of the day its a compromise of cultures.

Young people today are building their own world where they want to take control of what their purpose in society should be. When this is met with resistance you get exactly that, Resistance, its just like in the computer and software world, more security measures and more hackers otherwise there is no reason to keep improving . So it should be that you keep working with each other to improve relations between culture gaps rather than trying to force ones belief on another.

Its unfortunate that the argument mentioned in the first part had no compromise and my view was the problem of accepting you could be wrong so i tried to sum it up as follows…

“Common Courtesy”

It doesn’t matter who or what the other person is, social standing, etc there is a script that says “ Do to others as you would have them do unto you” it doesn’t seem to restrict to age as far as am concerned though many will say there is another that says respect your elders.

Respect is earned by being the type of person that deserves it…

C

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Even grown ups cry

August 7th, 2009

I went to this the Dentist today it was meant to be a quick check up…. Only to find i needed something done well i cant say what it was because i was busy thinking , here we go again, i just had 2 teeth removed!!!!! Anyways i love my dentist he seems to remember me even when i i havent been there for months the last one being our first meeting. Oh and yeah big men dont cry i just had to be in the zone…

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Hello world!

August 6th, 2009

Hello Everyone

I am happy you took some time to visit my site and come as far as my blog, that is very much appriciated and i home you can use your bloging through this site.

The site is still a work in progress but has been active for a while and i have hard several communication from all over the world. I am looking forward to communicate with even more are you all help keep the site online.

As the sight progresses you will might see a number of pages moved around but not much so publish blog away

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